This journey of mine, this elusive search for God’s face has been redemptive, forcing me to hurtle headlong into the confines of my faults and contradictions with the expectation that I will exit from the other side – unburdened, fortified and ready to do what has been mandated for me.
At the time of this writing, I am still waiting.
It has been said that it gets more difficult as you come closer to the shores of victory, but being cognizant of this fact – hopefully ensures that I won’t drown in those shallow waters.
My faith in humanity has been shaken on a number of occasions, but I am comforted in the realization that this is the lot of humanity – its consistent inconsistency.
Over the course of the past year I have been attacked by forces beyond the realm of my comprehension that have left me tumbling in the wake of death, loss, disillusionment and the putrid stench of man’s inhumanity towards man.
I wrote a missive last month about the police being called – on myself and 2 of my colleagues, the person who made the call had an assumption that we were attacking our female compatriot.
3 people in business attire talking, outside of a car, in a business district was interpreted as threatening.
On the surface this would seem to be nothing short of bewildering, but my life experiences have painted a far darker picture. I learned early on that my skin, my hue (not my demeanor) – but my very presence has been construed at different times of my life – as a threat, an unwanted visage of sorts.
The pain of having the carefree days of childhood innocence interrupted by the subtle, sometimes blatant countenance of racism, bigotry & intolerance has faded with time, as my adaptions have allowed me to survive and in many cases, thrive.
However, there is place in my psyche that serves a proverbial bookmark and I recall the event as if it were yesterday, my best friend in the 1st grade was a boy named Richard who was of Chinese ancestry, there was a hullabaloo in class about his upcoming birthday and many of our classmates had invitations to the party.
Puzzled about why I hadn’t received an invitation, I asked him about it and he informed me that I wouldn’t be able to come because his parents “didn’t like Black people”, there was a stunned silence of sorts on my part as I was powerless to respond and I continued on, not bothering to ask why.
In retrospect, it was moments like this that lead to enveloping myself in the “shield” as a defense mechanism which served to protect my sanity and sense of self.
This shield that I’m alluding to is a mechanism that allows me to be reflective and nonplussed when confronted by the litany of micro-aggressions that are the norm rather than the exception.
Why is a shield required?
Is this merely wordplay?
I only wish this was the case.
During my time as a young man and even now, there is this “otherness” that defines being Black that is laughable in its ridiculousness – this idea of Blackness or being Black means being part and parcel of this mysterious, yet exotic monolithic group, when nothing could be further from the truth in many instances.
But – there is a common denominator that echoes, loudly.
The cost of being Black in America comes at a steep cost.
This truth does not anger or cause me any sadness, as those emotions faded from the horizon long ago – but less than a week ago something endeavored to break the “shield” that had served me with efficiency for more than 35 years – sending me back to that cauldron of feelings, on that fateful afternoon when I was declined an invitation to Richard’s birthday party.
Fast forwarding 35 some odd years later.
When my son left for college in the Fall it was a bittersweet realization of the fact that everything that my wife and I had prepared him for was going to be put to the test, we would have to contend with tendering the gift that we received from the Almighty and effectively handing him over to the world.
I was confident that this young man of mine would dispatch of anything that came his way with the maturity that always left me awestruck.
I got a call from my son in late November, his voice was loaded with an apprehension that immediately caused me to tense up.
“Dad, I was walking back to my dorm room after class and the guys across the hall have their door draped in a confederate flag!
Somehow I was able to stammer out… “What?”
“Dad, I’m gonna rip it down.”
“Don’t… Leave it there!”
We went back and forth on the phone for seemed like and I was able to convince him to leave this vile piece of cloth hanging where it was. I had him send me a picture and when it flashed across my phone, I seethed and bemoaned the fact that I wasn’t able to protect my son.
I double checked the date and I confirmed that it was 2016, but strangely enough my son was seemingly forced to fight the Civil War again, ironic considering that I had discovered earlier that year that our ancestor, had fought in the Union Army in 1865 against this flag that many proclaim is reflective of “heritage”.
The actions of the University were lukewarm at best – my entreaties to the Director of Student Conduct were addressed via email with a declaration that “the situation has been resolved”. Once again my son’s maturity assuaged my concerns as he told me that he couldn’t be bothered because he had a degree to earn so I tucked this incident away under the file of “this is the South”.
When… A couple months later.
My “shield” went offline during the last week of February – and I was left at the mercy of this ugly world, unprotected.
He sent me another picture and I sat there dumbfounded, wrestling with a host of emotions. Words escaped me, anger governed me and I debated the efficacy of facing ugly with ugly.
It was a threat of violence tendered towards a sizable population of the student body scrawled on the door of the room (I’ve since removed the picture due to the inflammatory nature), but the tone of message is described as “hate speech”.
Hate can’t be met with a hopeful dialogue only, inclusion is the cousin of healing, but the iron fist of discipline must be wielded and repercussions must be felt.
In effect it was the inaction by the administration that emboldened the individuals to take their actions to another level – that being said the institution is as complicit in the act as the parents of these young people.
Am I expected to stay silent and allow platitudes to take the place of justice?
My search for God’s face tells me, I cannot.
And – I shiver, as it is cold out in this ugly world, realizing that my shield is still offline.
If you read this missive in its entirety, don’t say sorry and don’t bemoan the ignorance that seems to have an immortality complex.
I encourage you to be better, to be empowered enough to be contagious and push back at the confines of what my shield always protected me against.
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