Life is toxic, sometimes you have to get away from the daily routine… And people, for the purpose of allowing yourself space to think, to truly flesh out the things that are unfolding around you.
I’ve had a fixation on my parents as of late, in that I realize that they were right about so many of the lessons that they imparted to me. Sadly, much of that wisdom went over my head in my youth only to boomerang back with a thud in my adulthood as if to say “I told you so”.
In talking to my son I often feel that I am mouthing the very same words echoed by my parents years ago, “Don’t walk out this house trying to look cute, where is your hat and your scarf?” is something that has often shot out of my mouth with machine gun force.
Another one my parent’s time honored sayings that they beat me over the head with was: “You can talk yourself blue in the face but, you can’t tell some people nothing.” In the past year I have seen my parents words reverberate with eerie consistency. As I have had to sever ties with many people for whom this was the rule of thumb.
There is nothing worse than to be affiliated with someone under the binds of acquaintance, friendship or the like and having to bear witness to bad situations of their own creation. Often their reaction is to take it out on the people around them, rather than facing their own culpability in what has transpired.
Sadly, the old adage of “if you know better you do better” doesn’t apply with them, they continue to go through the same actions that got them in their assorted conundrums and then blame everyone else for what they have wrought, acting as if the world owes them something. In my encounters with people of this ilk, it has always been a consistent theme of them believing that the world owes them something, just because… The concept of exerting blood, sweat and tears in pursuit of what they desire is a mythical concept.
I don’t make resolutions, but if there is anything I do resolve, it is to keep these types of people out of my orbit, permanently.