I grew up in the latter half of the 1970’s and the early 1980’s, where corporal punishment was the rule of thumb.

My parents scoffed at the concept of sparing the rod, breaking the rod was probably more in line with their philosophy. In retrospect I am grateful that the rod was not withheld and even more grateful that it was broken in the act of chasing the recalcitrance from my person.

But –

What always saved the day was love.

Pure, unconditional and unfiltered – that I always found myself on the receiving end of.

Nowadays sparing the rod and spoiling (or neglecting in some cases) the child seems to be norm, rather than the exception.

Given the resources at our disposal it is widely accepted that the corporal punishment utilized by the parents of yesteryear would be categorized as child abuse in the present. Corporal punishment went by many names: spanking, time out…

But as for my siblings and many of my peers in the neighborhood “whooping” was the accepted terminology.

My Dad wielded the belt with deadly efficiency, while my Mom used the belt, broomstick and sometimes that extension cord from the popcorn popper with such improvisational dexterity that it would have put Bruce Lee to shame.

Even more intimidating than my parents was the prospect of crossing the line of discipline in the presence of my Aunt Lillian, who would have me march outside to cut a “switch” from a tree and bring it back for her utilization. I was walking on eggshells a lot of the time, but now I can look back with a tinge of nostalgia and a lot of laughter.

The purpose of this writing is not to reflect back with fondness on the “golden age of whooping”

Actually, I had a flashback in the process of doing a chapter rewrite. In reviewing some notes that I took in pencil I found myself staring at the words; not because I was unable to interpret my own handwriting, in actuality my penmanship is impeccable but I found myself erupting in laughter as I remembered why that was.


When I was a kid one of the things that my Dad used as one of his unique forms of punishment was for me to write 100 times “I will be intelligent”, legibly on college ruled paper.

If there was a letter out of place or if one of the lines were smudged or illegible, he would order me to do the entire exercise all over again. I hated it with a passion so much that I would lobby for another form of punishment instead having to go through the agony of sore aching fingers that was the side effect of my Father’s barbarism.

Consequently, I was a novelty in grammar school as the kid whose handwriting looked as if it came out of a printing press. Apparently, all of that writing made me a penmanship machine, the teachers would marvel at the work wrought by my pencil and little hands. Classmates would clamor around to see me write something and I never quite understood the appeal. As I got older I was often leveled with the “tongue in cheek” compliment that I wrote neat for a guy, as if I was predisposed to write in “cat scratch”.

More importantly, what I learned from this creative form of “corporal” punishment was that repetition is a powerful thing. I had my face plastered in a fixed position over college ruled paper, with pencil in hand, writing lines so much that, I started to believe whatever I was compelled to write.

Although I had my moments, especially as a teenager “I will be intelligent” was always lodged firmly in the back of my mind, even if my actions didn’t personify the core elements of intelligence that my Dad mandated that I exhibit.

When I had my “eureka” moment in the latter half of my sophomore year of high school, it was a culmination of a host of experiences that lead from me going from one extreme of the spectrum to the other.

I went from being the omnipresent discipline problem of the class to the studious, inquisitive kid that was always prattling on about something that he had read. More importantly I think it was a subconscious need to justify the investment that my Dad made in maintaining a dogged belief in his boy reaching his potential.

In retrospect I’m certain that this wasn’t an accident in how “I will be intelligent” went from a creative punishment, morphed into an expectation and then into an ongoing goal that I TRY (sometimes unsuccessfully) to put into practice on a daily basis.

Writer, poet, possessor of 2 cents, blogger, recovering corporate animal and eternal student of life, who harbors a firm belief in his Grandmother's mantra that: "People need to get off of their rump and do something". All while keeping in mind that a cheering section will only get in the way.

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